Many of our first-time anal sex experiences are accidental or ill prepared for at best, giving a poor first-time impression of all things anally sexual. Many couples don’t tend to talk about anal play and as individuals, we’re often quick to write it off, especially if we’ve had a bad experience in the past.

These self-imposed taboos mean that scores of us are missing out on the joy of anal sex and the pleasure that both men and women experience through anal penetration.

This first-time anal sex guide will talk you through anal experimentation and anal penetration, helping you to progressively experiment both alone, with a partner or with anal sex toys to achieve a satisfying anal sex life.

Read more: Beginner’s Guide to Anal Sex

Analingus or rimming is simply using your mouth, tongue, lips and sometimes teeth to stimulate your partner’s anus and (in the case of a male recipient) his testicles. As the anus has so many sensitive nerve-endings, it can be incredibly pleasurable for both men and women. Lots of couples enjoy rimming during foreplay, or as a sexy accompaniment to oral sex.

Interested in trying rimming or playing the rusty trombone? We’ve put together some tips to help you enjoy safe and satisfying play.

Read more: Guide to Rimming and Analingus